Infatuation is a strong feeling of attraction, fascination, and fixation toward someone, often without actually knowing them that well. Although it often feels very intense, infatuation tends to be based more on physical attraction and an imagined fantasy about who this person is, according to Lauren Fogel Mersy, PsyD, psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist.
“When I think of infatuation, I think of someone who has a strong attraction to a person they don’t know well,” Fogel Mersy explains. ‘It can also involve rejecting information that goes against the fantasy, such as ignoring red flags or early signs of incompatibility.”
Someone who is infatuated is constantly thinking about that person, Fogel Mersy adds. The feeling tends to form very quickly after meeting someone, says licensed mental health counselor Grace Suh, LMHC, LPC, and the infatuated person may feel like they’ve found “the one” even though they’ve just met them.